Last year, 1104 repeated marriages and 1047 divorces were registered in the Northern Cyprus. Experts call this a “world record” and emphasize an alarming trend: marriages break up at almost the same speed as they conclude.
Psychologists note that the causes of divorces are not limited only to financial difficulties. Even small household conflicts can lead to the collapse of the family. Particular anxiety is the influence of divorces on children, who, according to experts and residents themselves, turn out to be the main victims of divorce proceedings.
Residents of TRSK are actively discussing the problem.
Ershen Kantash: “The reason for the same number of marriages and divorces has its own, but I believe that this is due to a lack of respect and love between spouses. Although not all families, economic factors also play a role in marriages. Children of divorced pairs also suffer from psychological stress. When parents create discord in the family, this also affects children. I hope that spouses will be able to treat each other with maximum respect and love. ”
Zia Tatlyzhi: “Divorces arise due to financial difficulties. Moreover, young people are not seriously marriage, parents buy houses and cars to their children with the thought: “I suffered, so my children should not suffer,” and women who have gained financial independence often resort to a divorce even because of the slightest quarrel. Children of divorced pairs suffer greatly from this. I got married in 1973, and our marriage lasted a long time because we respect each other. My advice to young people is to treat each other with respect and love, to share both profit and losses. If the question arises in marriage "Your money, my money", such a marriage is doomed. "
Mustafa Tifla: “It was announced that the number of marriages and divorces was equal. The cause of the divorces is disagreements and financial difficulties between spouses. Economic difficulties often lead to the disintegration of marriages. My wife died, but we lived in marriage for 51 years. If the spouses respect each other, marriage can be beautiful. If a man asks for water, and his wife tells him to get up and bring, but does not respect him, marriages begin to crumble. The children of the divorced spouses also remain alone, suffering psychologically and making their life unhappy. ”
Joshkun Akalyn: “The reason why there are as many divorces as marriages is that couples do not get along with each other. I do not think that the economy plays a role in this; Parts occur simply because couples do not understand each other. Children of divorced couples are unhappy and experience psychological difficulties. I know this from my own children. I was married to my first wife for five years, and the second - ten. In order for the marriage to be strong, the spouses should treat each other with respect and love. ”
Merier Betmezoglu: “The main causes of divorces are the work and financial independence of both spouses. No one wants to endure someone else's presence. In our time, we suffered everything, because women are not created for work; But today's youth quickly parted for reasons of convenience, not making up with nothing. Children of the part of the part also suffer from psychological problems. Whatever happens, everything goes to children. Adults quickly find new partners for themselves, leaving children in limbo. My advice to young people is not to give up for the sake of children. ”
Zekia Kantash: “I connect the equalization of marriages and partings with incompatibility and high cost of life. I have been married for 51 years. I associate my 51 years of marriage with mutual respect and love. Children of the part of the part are experienced by psychological stress. If couples respect each other, and when one is angry, the other can cope with this, the probability of strong marriages is higher. Let them be content with small. "
Mehmet Shah: “Financial difficulties, the high cost of life, the intolerance of the spouses to each other and impatience is one of the main causes of divorces. There are significant differences between children of divorced couples and children in marriage. Family love is a completely different love, and children should grow with this love. In pairs that part, not parents suffer, but children. My 42-year marriage is the result of mutual understanding and patience. We are attentive and tolerant of each other. My advice to young people: be tolerant and tolerant of each other and solve your problems by dialogue; Then everything will be much better. ”
Thus, experts and residents agree on: economic difficulties, lack of patience and mutual respect become the main causes of divorce growth, and the main burden of consequences falls on children.
Source: DIYALOGAZETESI.com
